Using The Specific

We walked out of US history class and into the crowded hall.

It was a little tense.

"You're acting like an asshole", I said to one of my best friends at the time. He was actually mad.

"Did you just call me an asshole?"

"No. I said you were acting like one."

He didn't say anything back. The conversation felt weirdly resolved - he agreed. 

It's easier to move past your emotion to evaluate something specific when compared to the general. A smaller mistake is also easier to accept responsibility for. 

If you feel triggered about something, try and evaluate a specific part of what's being said instead.

If you want to change someones mind, start with one block at a time. 

Mitch RobinsonComment